Christianity is the easiest religion in the world. To join, all you have to do is believe that Jesus died to pay the penalty for your sins and rose again. That's all the thief on the cross did and Jesus said that man would be in heaven with Him before the day was out. There is no need to make a pilgrimage to a certain city, keep from working on certain days, not eat certain things, fast during specified times, or any other religious rites found in other religions.
It is also the hardest religion in the world, for much the same reason. We're used to having to earn everything, especially love and acceptance. We choose our clothes carefully, try very hard to perform well at work, over-analyze our relationships, workout incessantly, and do other things to be seen as acceptable and likable. When we have earned someone else's love, it is an accomplishment.
Unfortunately, if it is an accomplishment, it is not love. Love, by definition, is given rather than earned because it doesn't depend on what it gets in return. It is self-sacrificial, patient, merciful, giving, forgiving, and ever-faithful.
Christianity requires only the belief I mentioned above, and yet that belief requires a change of heart, for to espouse Christianity is to deny yourself at your very core.
Here's what I mean: the root sin of the Bible wasn't really Eve eating the apple. It was Eve disobeying God, choosing herself instead of Him. At the root of all of our sins is a choice of ourselves instead of God. It is that which hinders our relationship with Him. Becoming a Christian is recognizing that you have been doing this and it is, at a much deeper level than you had ever realized (and maybe deeper still than you ever could), fundamentally wrong.
It is here where Christianity is different from all other religions. While all of them promise some form of after-life or next life, all such promises are both: A. Solely for your benefit and B. Based on your conduct. In other words, there is no grand plan for humanity since the beginning of time. There may be mercy, but it is either earned or (rarely) given arbitrarily. There are actions and rewards. That is all. The gods of other religions become little more than cosmic vending machines, doling out to each what they deserve for the deeds they've put in.
While Christianity does still have the law of sowing and reaping, the core of it is based in reaping what you could never sow. You reap an eternity with God, something that only a perfect life could earn, and you could never be perfect on your own. It is based on a gift, not a reward. It is because of this that it requires a change of heart.
If you seek God for only what God can give you, then you make God like the god of any other religion. You will try to earn things from Him, try to be good and help others out so that He'll owe you one, and do your best to not tick Him off. This bastardizes Christianity, because it takes it from the separate belief that it should be and puts it with all the other earned blessing beliefs out there.
As importantly, it bastardizes us as Christians because we are no longer children of God, but supplicant servants who too often pretend to be the masters. We take ourselves from our true place and put our selves in a lower one because we don't really believe the Gospel message. We go from begging God as slaves to demanding reasons for His inaction as though we control Him or have some sort of paycheck coming. In this regard, how can we honestly call ourselves Christians, if we pretend to worship God and yet do so in the same self-serving way every other religion does?
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Friday, October 7, 2011
Deal of a Lifetime
I've been thinking a lot lately about self image. I've had a self image problem really as long as I can remember. Even when I was four, I thought I'd somehow failed because I wasn't as tall as other people. I wasn't nearly as hard on myself as I grew to be, but I've always been a people pleaser and perfectionist. For those who know the four personality types of sanguine, choleric, melancholy, and phlegmatic, I'm the strongest melancholy you're likely to ever meet, but I'm growing more choleric as time passes, which is a hard mix for both me and those around me.
Because of my personality, I place a ton of value on being the best at everything I care about doing: being the smartest person in the room, having the funniest shirts, always being on time, being at least fairly up-to-date on nerd culture (which is big where I live), being a good cook and photographer, always having what others might need in my car, etc. If I fail at any of these, I often feel like a failure overall. It's way too harsh and undeserved, but it is how I have been since I was about eight.
I went to Connect, our young adults group, for the last time this past Tuesday. The message was about the parable of the man who found a treasure in a field, hid it, sold everything he had, and bought the field. Jesus was using that treasure to represent the kingdom of God. The obvious moral is that it's so much more valuable than anything else we have in life, we'd be foolish to cling to our possessions when we can have this instead.
I think there is another layer of meaning to it, however. I don't believe Jesus literally wanted everyone to sell everything they had just so they could have a relationship with Him. I mean, Abraham, Job, and Solomon were very wealthy men. Even Jesus had a robe so nice that the soldiers, instead of dividing it as appeared the custom, cast lots for who would get it. There's nothing wrong with Christians having money or enjoying nice things, just something wrong with letting money get in the way of our relationship with God.
More importantly, if you sell something, you don't have it anymore. This may sound too obvious to be worth mentioning, but when we try to attain the kingdom of Heaven, do we really sell all we have or do we claim to give our stuff up and then take it back? You can't do that and keep what you buy in any earthly transaction. You have to give it in exchange and leave it.
This means more, I think, than simply being willing to walk away from your money or your job or even moving to a nation hostile to Christians and risking your life preaching the Gospel. I think it means that you have to give up even your old way of thinking about yourself.
We do this with other things in life. When you become an employee of a company, you think of yourself as an employee, which means (or should at least) that you are willing to submit yourself to the managers of that company and do whatever they hired you to do. When you get married, you can no longer go dating other men or women like you could when you were single. You think of yourself differently because your situation is different.
When we become Christians, our situation changes more than we can really fathom. Yet most of us don't seem to see the fullness of that difference. We see that we have been saved, but don't understand what that should mean as far as how we see ourselves. We're no longer a collection of cells here by chance, trying to get as much stuff as we can before we die and cease to exist. Now we're bought with the death of the Son of God, redeemed from a horrible fate, and made children and heirs of the Creator of the universe.
What is it we hope to gain by continually seeking our value in how others view us, or in whether someone we like likes us as well, or in how much money or power or fame we have? We can't add to our value, nor can we decrease it (and how much time, emotions, and energy do we waste worrying about or trying to prevent others rejecting us?), so we are hunting all our lives for copper when there is gold at our feet.
I don't think Jesus wanted us to sell all we have to get the kingdom of God; He wanted something much more valuable: our hearts, including the way we see ourselves. If we cannot give that up to Him, we are missing one of the greatest blessings of being Christians.
Because of my personality, I place a ton of value on being the best at everything I care about doing: being the smartest person in the room, having the funniest shirts, always being on time, being at least fairly up-to-date on nerd culture (which is big where I live), being a good cook and photographer, always having what others might need in my car, etc. If I fail at any of these, I often feel like a failure overall. It's way too harsh and undeserved, but it is how I have been since I was about eight.
I went to Connect, our young adults group, for the last time this past Tuesday. The message was about the parable of the man who found a treasure in a field, hid it, sold everything he had, and bought the field. Jesus was using that treasure to represent the kingdom of God. The obvious moral is that it's so much more valuable than anything else we have in life, we'd be foolish to cling to our possessions when we can have this instead.
I think there is another layer of meaning to it, however. I don't believe Jesus literally wanted everyone to sell everything they had just so they could have a relationship with Him. I mean, Abraham, Job, and Solomon were very wealthy men. Even Jesus had a robe so nice that the soldiers, instead of dividing it as appeared the custom, cast lots for who would get it. There's nothing wrong with Christians having money or enjoying nice things, just something wrong with letting money get in the way of our relationship with God.
More importantly, if you sell something, you don't have it anymore. This may sound too obvious to be worth mentioning, but when we try to attain the kingdom of Heaven, do we really sell all we have or do we claim to give our stuff up and then take it back? You can't do that and keep what you buy in any earthly transaction. You have to give it in exchange and leave it.
This means more, I think, than simply being willing to walk away from your money or your job or even moving to a nation hostile to Christians and risking your life preaching the Gospel. I think it means that you have to give up even your old way of thinking about yourself.
We do this with other things in life. When you become an employee of a company, you think of yourself as an employee, which means (or should at least) that you are willing to submit yourself to the managers of that company and do whatever they hired you to do. When you get married, you can no longer go dating other men or women like you could when you were single. You think of yourself differently because your situation is different.
When we become Christians, our situation changes more than we can really fathom. Yet most of us don't seem to see the fullness of that difference. We see that we have been saved, but don't understand what that should mean as far as how we see ourselves. We're no longer a collection of cells here by chance, trying to get as much stuff as we can before we die and cease to exist. Now we're bought with the death of the Son of God, redeemed from a horrible fate, and made children and heirs of the Creator of the universe.
What is it we hope to gain by continually seeking our value in how others view us, or in whether someone we like likes us as well, or in how much money or power or fame we have? We can't add to our value, nor can we decrease it (and how much time, emotions, and energy do we waste worrying about or trying to prevent others rejecting us?), so we are hunting all our lives for copper when there is gold at our feet.
I don't think Jesus wanted us to sell all we have to get the kingdom of God; He wanted something much more valuable: our hearts, including the way we see ourselves. If we cannot give that up to Him, we are missing one of the greatest blessings of being Christians.
The End of Mankind
There is an article on CNN.com right now about men needing to man up, and I agree with most of what the author said. By "man up", he means that women are earning almost half again more degrees than men, have seen their earnings rise faster, are getting better jobs than ever before, and generally seem far more mature. Men between 18 - 34 reportedly spend more time on average playing video games than boys 12-17.
I am ashamed to admit there are elements of what he criticizes us for that could be applied to my own life. While I don't usually play video games for hours and hours a day, I do play too much. I am currently looking for a job, but feel as though I have wasted most of the last three years trying to be a writer.
The one thing I liked least about the article, though, is that it didn't really delve into the reasons for the change. It essentially told men we need to get our act together and become more mature, but never explored why we're not. This is not simply a problem of our generation, nor even of just our sex.
First, people learn as children most of what they will believe as adults, especially in terms of what is acceptable behavior. If their fathers had quick tempers, they are more likely to. If their fathers were often absent, even if there is a good excuse such as having to work two jobs to pay the mortgage, then absenteeism is acceptable. If their fathers looked at women as sex objects or were no good at developing relationships, then boys will learn that's how women are to be treated. The only way out of this is for serious reflection, whether after a disaster or before, and even then, the change must be in the heart rather than just in the head if it's going to take.
To give an example of what I mean, my father has a quick temper and often yelled and swore. I used to be just as bad. Over the last few years, I've toned it down, but I still can be offended by some things too easily. I've learned to just walk away in most of those situations rather than have an outburst, but even that is not really the maturity level I should have. I need to be able to express myself in a manner that conveys that I am upset, but still be able to clearly explain why in a way that doesn't make things worse. I know it's a bad way to handle conflict. It's worse that I often just try to ignore annoyances and offenses until I can't take them anymore and then do what many consider an overreaction, since they had not seen before that I was offended by something.
Then there is the contribution of women, though this is more unwittingly and out of necessity. With more men in the last generation not being married when they had kids, leaving millions of single mothers, many boys have grown up with the notion that a woman is in control and will take care of us. Because these mothers are taking on both the role of the father and of the mother, the former of which they were, in most cases, doing without seeing their own mothers doing it, there were missteps made along the way, most notably that it's difficult for women to teach men how to be men. They are designed differently, they think differently, they act differently. They can talk about how a man should be, but they can't teach by example, and that's how most people learn behavior.
Now, I am not exonerating these boys trapped in men's bodies. Many of them are intelligent and a number went to college and even have good jobs. It's just that their emotionally immature and ill-suited to adult life. At some point in their lives, they must realize that they meant to be more than they are. They are meant to take charge of their lives. They are meant to make decisions and take responsibility for those decisions. They are meant to lead in a relationship and be the rock that her waves crash against. And if they don't know what this means, they need to ask older men or just men who have learned how to be men.
There's a show called Two and a Half Men about two men and a boy. One of the men was Charlie Sheen and you're probably all aware of his unfortunate meltdown. The producers replaced his character with Ashton Kutcher playing a handsome young billionaire who has everything...except that he and his wife are separated. He wants her back desperately, but he's all but helpless himself. He doesn't know what kind of toilet paper or shampoo to get, can't pick a restaurant for a dinner with his wife, and can't have a conversation with her without it devolving into him acting like a six-year old. While most men aren't quite that bad, men seem to be generally headed that direction. Our dependence on women has increased dramatically while our need for a real relationship with one has seemingly decreased. In other words, more and more men are looking for a mother and not a girlfriend or wife.
If there happen to be any men out there who don't know what it means to be a Christian man, here it is as I understand it:
- You don't rely on your job or significant other to make you feel good about yourself. This is because you don't need them to give you confidence; your confidence comes from how God sees you and not from how others view you. It's based on the value God has put on you, not on the value of your talents or skills or possessions.
- Because you're not dependent on your significant other or job for your feelings of self worth, you are free to treat each as they should be treated without letting a fear of losing them cloud your better judgment. There are many men who stay in jobs or relationships where they are walked all over because they fear being alone or jobless, or perhaps better said, they fear the feelings of failure from being alone or jobless. If you do not depend on these things, you do not have a controlling fear of losing them, allowing you to not put up with things you don't deserve.
- A real man controls his temper. It's ok to get angry. The Bible says, "Be angry and sin not." Anger is fine and sometimes perfectly justified. Cussing someone out, hitting, throwing pity parties, or crawling into a bottle are not acceptable ways to express it. Becoming silent and distant is really no better because it raises more questions with the person you're disagreeing with, causing them to become defensive and toying with their confidence. It also does nothing to solve the issue. If you are ticked with someone, spend a little time away if necessary until you can discuss it rationally, and then go and discuss it. Be direct and frank and open to the possibilities that you are either in the wrong yourself or overreacting.
- A real man leads. I don't count leading a team in Gears of War or World of Warcraft, either. . I mean a real man thinks about the direction of his life and what the relationships he is a part of need, even if that means ending them. I have recently had to end a friendship because it was no longer healthy for me. I have also pulled back from a few others because I didn't believe they were healthy for the other person. In another case, I talked to a friend about a man she was dating because I saw warning signs that I think will negatively affect their relationship down the road. Leading also includes making important life decisions that are in the best interests of everyone involved, not just himself.
- A real man is mature enough to take care of himself. Women have a vital role. They are meant to support us in a variety of ways and be partners with us in life. But their place is not to take care of every last little need we have to the point we're incompetent ourselves. A woman should not have to bug a man to turn off the X-box and go look for a job. She should not have to lay out his clothes for him every morning because he can't pick a decent outfit for himself. He should be able to fend for himself food-wise for an evening without making mac & cheese or ordering pizza or be able to do a load of laundry. Perhaps most importantly in this point, he should be mature enough to have a plan for his and his family's life, including achieving real financial security. This includes savings goals, investment plans (or at least being smart enough to let a firm manage his investments), career goals, and goals for learning new talents or skills.
- A real man is his own man. This relates to the first one quite closely. What I mean by this one is that a real man doesn't do everything his wife suggests and abandons all his own ideas if she so much as hesitates. He doesn't stop doing something he loves (provided, of course, it's not dangerous, illegal, immoral, consumes all his time, or is a drain on their finances) because she doesn't want to be a part of it or asks him not to. Guys, seriously, most women will actually respect you less if you do give up something like this. If she's bugging you to give up something that's a part of your identity, such as say watching football, reach a compromise with her. She probably just means you're spending too much time doing it. Analyze how much time you're actually spending on it and you may find she's right if you spend all weekend every weekend for five months in front of the TV. If so, compromise. Cut back and spend some time with her, but don't give it up entirely. If that's something you love and isn't harming anyone, it's unreasonable for her to make you give it up entirely.
- A real man speaks his mind when the situation calls for it. This includes calling out people for doing something wrong, even if it's not to you, on occasion. It means speaking your mind in meetings, asking questions when it's important, and not being afraid of whether others will agree with you.
- A real man loves God more than he'll ever love his wife or children and submits his life to God's will. This last key is the only way a man will ever be able to fulfill these other ones in a God-honoring way and become not just a man, but a man of God.
I am ashamed to admit there are elements of what he criticizes us for that could be applied to my own life. While I don't usually play video games for hours and hours a day, I do play too much. I am currently looking for a job, but feel as though I have wasted most of the last three years trying to be a writer.
The one thing I liked least about the article, though, is that it didn't really delve into the reasons for the change. It essentially told men we need to get our act together and become more mature, but never explored why we're not. This is not simply a problem of our generation, nor even of just our sex.
First, people learn as children most of what they will believe as adults, especially in terms of what is acceptable behavior. If their fathers had quick tempers, they are more likely to. If their fathers were often absent, even if there is a good excuse such as having to work two jobs to pay the mortgage, then absenteeism is acceptable. If their fathers looked at women as sex objects or were no good at developing relationships, then boys will learn that's how women are to be treated. The only way out of this is for serious reflection, whether after a disaster or before, and even then, the change must be in the heart rather than just in the head if it's going to take.
To give an example of what I mean, my father has a quick temper and often yelled and swore. I used to be just as bad. Over the last few years, I've toned it down, but I still can be offended by some things too easily. I've learned to just walk away in most of those situations rather than have an outburst, but even that is not really the maturity level I should have. I need to be able to express myself in a manner that conveys that I am upset, but still be able to clearly explain why in a way that doesn't make things worse. I know it's a bad way to handle conflict. It's worse that I often just try to ignore annoyances and offenses until I can't take them anymore and then do what many consider an overreaction, since they had not seen before that I was offended by something.
Then there is the contribution of women, though this is more unwittingly and out of necessity. With more men in the last generation not being married when they had kids, leaving millions of single mothers, many boys have grown up with the notion that a woman is in control and will take care of us. Because these mothers are taking on both the role of the father and of the mother, the former of which they were, in most cases, doing without seeing their own mothers doing it, there were missteps made along the way, most notably that it's difficult for women to teach men how to be men. They are designed differently, they think differently, they act differently. They can talk about how a man should be, but they can't teach by example, and that's how most people learn behavior.
Now, I am not exonerating these boys trapped in men's bodies. Many of them are intelligent and a number went to college and even have good jobs. It's just that their emotionally immature and ill-suited to adult life. At some point in their lives, they must realize that they meant to be more than they are. They are meant to take charge of their lives. They are meant to make decisions and take responsibility for those decisions. They are meant to lead in a relationship and be the rock that her waves crash against. And if they don't know what this means, they need to ask older men or just men who have learned how to be men.
There's a show called Two and a Half Men about two men and a boy. One of the men was Charlie Sheen and you're probably all aware of his unfortunate meltdown. The producers replaced his character with Ashton Kutcher playing a handsome young billionaire who has everything...except that he and his wife are separated. He wants her back desperately, but he's all but helpless himself. He doesn't know what kind of toilet paper or shampoo to get, can't pick a restaurant for a dinner with his wife, and can't have a conversation with her without it devolving into him acting like a six-year old. While most men aren't quite that bad, men seem to be generally headed that direction. Our dependence on women has increased dramatically while our need for a real relationship with one has seemingly decreased. In other words, more and more men are looking for a mother and not a girlfriend or wife.
If there happen to be any men out there who don't know what it means to be a Christian man, here it is as I understand it:
- You don't rely on your job or significant other to make you feel good about yourself. This is because you don't need them to give you confidence; your confidence comes from how God sees you and not from how others view you. It's based on the value God has put on you, not on the value of your talents or skills or possessions.
- Because you're not dependent on your significant other or job for your feelings of self worth, you are free to treat each as they should be treated without letting a fear of losing them cloud your better judgment. There are many men who stay in jobs or relationships where they are walked all over because they fear being alone or jobless, or perhaps better said, they fear the feelings of failure from being alone or jobless. If you do not depend on these things, you do not have a controlling fear of losing them, allowing you to not put up with things you don't deserve.
- A real man controls his temper. It's ok to get angry. The Bible says, "Be angry and sin not." Anger is fine and sometimes perfectly justified. Cussing someone out, hitting, throwing pity parties, or crawling into a bottle are not acceptable ways to express it. Becoming silent and distant is really no better because it raises more questions with the person you're disagreeing with, causing them to become defensive and toying with their confidence. It also does nothing to solve the issue. If you are ticked with someone, spend a little time away if necessary until you can discuss it rationally, and then go and discuss it. Be direct and frank and open to the possibilities that you are either in the wrong yourself or overreacting.
- A real man leads. I don't count leading a team in Gears of War or World of Warcraft, either. . I mean a real man thinks about the direction of his life and what the relationships he is a part of need, even if that means ending them. I have recently had to end a friendship because it was no longer healthy for me. I have also pulled back from a few others because I didn't believe they were healthy for the other person. In another case, I talked to a friend about a man she was dating because I saw warning signs that I think will negatively affect their relationship down the road. Leading also includes making important life decisions that are in the best interests of everyone involved, not just himself.
- A real man is mature enough to take care of himself. Women have a vital role. They are meant to support us in a variety of ways and be partners with us in life. But their place is not to take care of every last little need we have to the point we're incompetent ourselves. A woman should not have to bug a man to turn off the X-box and go look for a job. She should not have to lay out his clothes for him every morning because he can't pick a decent outfit for himself. He should be able to fend for himself food-wise for an evening without making mac & cheese or ordering pizza or be able to do a load of laundry. Perhaps most importantly in this point, he should be mature enough to have a plan for his and his family's life, including achieving real financial security. This includes savings goals, investment plans (or at least being smart enough to let a firm manage his investments), career goals, and goals for learning new talents or skills.
- A real man is his own man. This relates to the first one quite closely. What I mean by this one is that a real man doesn't do everything his wife suggests and abandons all his own ideas if she so much as hesitates. He doesn't stop doing something he loves (provided, of course, it's not dangerous, illegal, immoral, consumes all his time, or is a drain on their finances) because she doesn't want to be a part of it or asks him not to. Guys, seriously, most women will actually respect you less if you do give up something like this. If she's bugging you to give up something that's a part of your identity, such as say watching football, reach a compromise with her. She probably just means you're spending too much time doing it. Analyze how much time you're actually spending on it and you may find she's right if you spend all weekend every weekend for five months in front of the TV. If so, compromise. Cut back and spend some time with her, but don't give it up entirely. If that's something you love and isn't harming anyone, it's unreasonable for her to make you give it up entirely.
- A real man speaks his mind when the situation calls for it. This includes calling out people for doing something wrong, even if it's not to you, on occasion. It means speaking your mind in meetings, asking questions when it's important, and not being afraid of whether others will agree with you.
- A real man loves God more than he'll ever love his wife or children and submits his life to God's will. This last key is the only way a man will ever be able to fulfill these other ones in a God-honoring way and become not just a man, but a man of God.
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Separation of Church and State
Our country has narrowly avoided a tragedy: the default of the US on a number of its payments. Had we defaulted, we would have had to instantly cut our spending from around $325 billion a month to $200 billion a month. Say goodbye to retirement benefits for many government employees, a number of current employees, some entitlement programs, DOD spending, and many other projects and operations we run. Because the interest would still have to be paid (roughly $36 billion a month), this means our actual expenses would have gone from $289 billion down to $164 billion. This is essentially what the Tea Party wanted to do with the Cut, Cap, and Balance Act, reducing spending to never exceed income. It sounds good in theory, but slashing that high a percentage of programs all at once leads to:
- Far worse unemployment, since the US gov't is responsible, either directly or indirectly through contractors, for so many employees.
- More people dependent on churches and other charities than ever before, taxing their resources.
- Probably an initial surge in stock prices, but that would affect mostly those who are rich enough to not need the money.
- This surge would be followed by collapse as the unemployment and GDP figures come out.
- Many people losing their homes.
- Many not being able to afford health care.
- This list goes on and on and on. These effects would eventually level out, but it would take the better part of a decade for stability to return and even then, it would not be the same as it is now.
The Democrats' response was to raise the debt ceiling by almost $3 trillion, cut only $900 billion in spending (enough for about 7 months), and agree to talk about cutting up to a total of $3 trillion off spending in the next decade, though these changes would not have to be ratified. At best, that's only 20% of our overages over the next decade and that's IF things don't get worse and all these changes are enacted.
Imagine a man going to the hospital with a gash in his neck. It's bleeding quickly, so they rush him to surgery prep and the two surgeons on call debate about what to do to stop the bleeding. One says, "I think we oughtta put a tourniquet around his neck." The other says, "Let's put a band-aid on and hope for the best." And then they argued about this until the very last second before the patient died and then performed a lazy surgery that just slowed the bleeding enough that they could keep the patient alive with blood transfusions.
We have elections coming up next year. Many Senators and Representatives will be kicked out, Obama may or may not be re-elected, and it seems that many of the Republican candidates are viewed as nutjobs that not even Republicans really like. Palin seems like a backwaters rube with no foreign experience, Romney has flipped back and forth on major issues, Bachmann (though I haven't followed her enough to know her actual stances) seems to be regarded as a little off her rocker, and Rick Perry has the, "Oh, Lord, not another Texan!" zeitgeist hanging over him courtesy of Bush.
I go on CNN for most of my news and, as I'm sure you're aware, it's a very liberal-leaning site. Most of the people who post on articles there are also liberals and one of the things they bring up most often about the Republicans (to bash them or make fun of them) is that they're Christian. Christianity is now looked at as a bad thing by a large number, and perhaps a majority, of people in this country, particularly when you try to bring your beliefs with you into public office. "Oh, you can't do that! Separation of church and state!"
The thing is that everyone brings their beliefs into office with them. A person can't do anything against their beliefs. And that is the point of this post (I know, I took my sweet time getting here, didn't I?)
You may be thinking: well, of course they can. Look at all these pastors caught cheating on their wives. Look at all the politicians standing for one thing during their campaigns and then changing their minds when it comes time to vote. Even I've made a mistake or two along the way.
Yes, that's all true. The point, though, is that nothing mentioned is really against the person's beliefs, or at least not their primary beliefs. Let's take lying for example. You may say it's wrong to lie and believe that, yet lie when it gets you out of trouble. Let's take it a step further and say that you lie to keep someone else out of trouble. You do this because you believe that person should stay out of trouble more than you believe lying is bad. Your primary belief takes over your lesser ones. With the pastors, their belief that they have a right to be happy or enjoy another woman outweighs their belief that God wants what is best for them and that this is not it.
Using this, we can define religion as our core beliefs. I'd encourage you to take some time to define yours. Be very careful when you do this. Your head will almost certainly tell you something different than your heart, but your head is not where religion comes from. The reason I give this warning is that those reading this (assuming most are Christians) will probably jump up to say the Christian mantra about Jesus dying for them, being resurrected, etc. I don't mean to disparage that, but if that were your true core belief, the one thing you held true, you'd never sin, and yet you do. So there's some core belief above that one, somewhere, or at the very least, competing neck-and-neck with it.
For me, at my core, I believe I deserve to be loved, accepted, and forgiven. It tears me apart that everyone else can find dates so easily (or at least has people who want to date them), is somebody's best or 2nd-best friend, is generally liked by the groups they're a part of, and is genuinely forgiven for most of what they do wrong. It makes me feel like less of a person that I have/am none of these. (I don't say this in an effort to get anyone to pity me; I'm using this just as an example.) As an offshoot of this, combined with the fear I will never be as human as other people, I believe I deserve to find happiness in what small ways I can. Some of these are "lesser" sins, some are not sinful at all, but all further cement me in my beliefs because they are all I really know of happiness.
I stepped down from the leadership team of my young adults group. I needed to get my mind and, more importantly, my heart right. It's hard when I don't even know what that looks like.
It was a position where I had not separated church and state, but I had the wrong church. What is your church? What is your state? How well do the two really align? Just some food for thought.
- Far worse unemployment, since the US gov't is responsible, either directly or indirectly through contractors, for so many employees.
- More people dependent on churches and other charities than ever before, taxing their resources.
- Probably an initial surge in stock prices, but that would affect mostly those who are rich enough to not need the money.
- This surge would be followed by collapse as the unemployment and GDP figures come out.
- Many people losing their homes.
- Many not being able to afford health care.
- This list goes on and on and on. These effects would eventually level out, but it would take the better part of a decade for stability to return and even then, it would not be the same as it is now.
The Democrats' response was to raise the debt ceiling by almost $3 trillion, cut only $900 billion in spending (enough for about 7 months), and agree to talk about cutting up to a total of $3 trillion off spending in the next decade, though these changes would not have to be ratified. At best, that's only 20% of our overages over the next decade and that's IF things don't get worse and all these changes are enacted.
Imagine a man going to the hospital with a gash in his neck. It's bleeding quickly, so they rush him to surgery prep and the two surgeons on call debate about what to do to stop the bleeding. One says, "I think we oughtta put a tourniquet around his neck." The other says, "Let's put a band-aid on and hope for the best." And then they argued about this until the very last second before the patient died and then performed a lazy surgery that just slowed the bleeding enough that they could keep the patient alive with blood transfusions.
We have elections coming up next year. Many Senators and Representatives will be kicked out, Obama may or may not be re-elected, and it seems that many of the Republican candidates are viewed as nutjobs that not even Republicans really like. Palin seems like a backwaters rube with no foreign experience, Romney has flipped back and forth on major issues, Bachmann (though I haven't followed her enough to know her actual stances) seems to be regarded as a little off her rocker, and Rick Perry has the, "Oh, Lord, not another Texan!" zeitgeist hanging over him courtesy of Bush.
I go on CNN for most of my news and, as I'm sure you're aware, it's a very liberal-leaning site. Most of the people who post on articles there are also liberals and one of the things they bring up most often about the Republicans (to bash them or make fun of them) is that they're Christian. Christianity is now looked at as a bad thing by a large number, and perhaps a majority, of people in this country, particularly when you try to bring your beliefs with you into public office. "Oh, you can't do that! Separation of church and state!"
The thing is that everyone brings their beliefs into office with them. A person can't do anything against their beliefs. And that is the point of this post (I know, I took my sweet time getting here, didn't I?)
You may be thinking: well, of course they can. Look at all these pastors caught cheating on their wives. Look at all the politicians standing for one thing during their campaigns and then changing their minds when it comes time to vote. Even I've made a mistake or two along the way.
Yes, that's all true. The point, though, is that nothing mentioned is really against the person's beliefs, or at least not their primary beliefs. Let's take lying for example. You may say it's wrong to lie and believe that, yet lie when it gets you out of trouble. Let's take it a step further and say that you lie to keep someone else out of trouble. You do this because you believe that person should stay out of trouble more than you believe lying is bad. Your primary belief takes over your lesser ones. With the pastors, their belief that they have a right to be happy or enjoy another woman outweighs their belief that God wants what is best for them and that this is not it.
Using this, we can define religion as our core beliefs. I'd encourage you to take some time to define yours. Be very careful when you do this. Your head will almost certainly tell you something different than your heart, but your head is not where religion comes from. The reason I give this warning is that those reading this (assuming most are Christians) will probably jump up to say the Christian mantra about Jesus dying for them, being resurrected, etc. I don't mean to disparage that, but if that were your true core belief, the one thing you held true, you'd never sin, and yet you do. So there's some core belief above that one, somewhere, or at the very least, competing neck-and-neck with it.
For me, at my core, I believe I deserve to be loved, accepted, and forgiven. It tears me apart that everyone else can find dates so easily (or at least has people who want to date them), is somebody's best or 2nd-best friend, is generally liked by the groups they're a part of, and is genuinely forgiven for most of what they do wrong. It makes me feel like less of a person that I have/am none of these. (I don't say this in an effort to get anyone to pity me; I'm using this just as an example.) As an offshoot of this, combined with the fear I will never be as human as other people, I believe I deserve to find happiness in what small ways I can. Some of these are "lesser" sins, some are not sinful at all, but all further cement me in my beliefs because they are all I really know of happiness.
I stepped down from the leadership team of my young adults group. I needed to get my mind and, more importantly, my heart right. It's hard when I don't even know what that looks like.
It was a position where I had not separated church and state, but I had the wrong church. What is your church? What is your state? How well do the two really align? Just some food for thought.
Monday, March 21, 2011
Goodbye For Now
This will be my last post, at least for a while. It seems rather pointless to do this if all of these go unread or, at best, without any sort of effect for anyone. And I don't blame anyone who has missed this for missing it. I have finally figured out the real problem in my life, but maybe that doesn't even matter now...at least, not for those who currently know me.
I can only go with God, can only trust Him, and can only obey Him. Pray that God reveals more of Himself to you and pray for each other; as broken as we all are, we need it.
I can only go with God, can only trust Him, and can only obey Him. Pray that God reveals more of Himself to you and pray for each other; as broken as we all are, we need it.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Cracked
I've talked with a few non-Christian friends about God and one of the most common objections is, "How can a loving God send people to hell?" Along those same lines is, "I'm a pretty good person, so I should make it to heaven, right?"
For the first one, I have lots of thoughts. One is that it's more our free will that determines where we go rather than some arbitrary judgment on God's part. What I mean is, say I was a billionaire and offered you a million dollars to come to where I live. You refuse and go to Detroit. I'm not in Detroit, so you don't get the million dollars. Whose fault is it?
"But God knows what I'm going to choose, right? And He's all-powerful, isn't He? So why can't He just make the situations in my life go so that I choose Him and not hell?"
Because that would essentially take away your free will. God's purpose for you is to glorify Him. Before you say that's awfully self-aggrandizing of Him, two things: 1. No amount of praise we can give Him can ever be enough. I don't mean that as a way to praise Him, I mean that as in nothing we can do can make Him greater or more powerful (or, conversely, less so). He doesn't need us; we need Him. 2. You can't do that if you have no free will. If you're forced to serve and obey, there can be no love. It is the love of God and love for God that you need, not to be enslaved.
"Why is there hell in the first place? Why can't we all just disappear if we're not going to heaven?"
God created us to be immortal. Could He have made it so that we just disappear when we die if we don't go to heaven? Yes, but then, we'd have no real motivation to choose Him. As for hell itself, I think (and I cannot find any Bible verse either for or against this particular idea) that the true torture of hell is not the flames or pitchforks or whatever else is there, but the total separation from God, from all hope and love, and yet being poignantly aware of the lack of it. Essentially, the analogy of you going to Detroit is appropriate here, too, because you could have gone anywhere in the world and, if that place is not where I live, you choose to get nothing because I am not there. All of those places are equally void of me and so are essentially the same. Likewise, choosing Buddhism, atheism, Islam, or even scientology is pretty much all the same choice.
"But I'm a good person. I give to the poor, haven't killed or raped anyone, and try to generally be nice to people. I get to go to heaven, right?"
I have perhaps even more thoughts on this particular question than on the first one:
1. Many non-believers think God is cruel for sending non-believers to hell if they don't believe. Even aside from the free will argument above, keep in mind that we are His creation, which really gives Him the right to do whatever He sees fit. If you made a pie, but then that pie fell on the floor, you could spend some time scraping off the part that had contact with the floor and carefully making sure the rest was hair- and dirt-free and uncontaminated or you could throw the pie away. Either decision is entirely your right and the pie, if it could talk, would have no right to argue or demand one type of treatment over the other.
2. Most of the negative feedback I hear on this topic is against the Christian God, even though all religions (that I'm aware of) have either hell or an infinite series of lives on earth (some as animals or as people with deformities, severe poverty, or other handicaps) and all but Christianity are based on works. Being good enough gets you to heaven or nirvana or wherever. You just never know until you die whether you've been good enough. Christianity is the only religion that accepts you as you are, and once you get that, it changes you. There are no requirements of service or prayer a certain number of days or giving to the poor. Service, prayer, and charity are encouraged, even commanded, but are nowhere used as the basis for salvation. In other words, while Christianity may be the most adamant religion in that you have to be pure and holy to get to heaven, it is also the one in which heaven is most easily attainable and the one in which we can be assured of heaven while still alive. All we have to do is accept who Jesus is and what He did for us and we're in.
3. Some people complain that with other religions, you can mess up and still get in, whereas with Christianity, one mistake and you're done for. It's true; if you reject Jesus, the only way into heaven is absolute perfection, which we've all fallen short of. Think about it in terms of the law: if you rob a gas station at gunpoint, the judge won't care that you give money to charity, attend church every Sunday, and coach the local Little League baseball team. You go to jail, even if that's your first offense.
If you have an egg and you notice a crack in it, you probably throw the egg away. Why? Because it's contaminated. One crack may as well be 1,000. Same with most food that we drop on the floor. Whether it's down there for four seconds or four months is all the same and we throw it away. We're used to several examples of perfection being demanded or else the item in question is tossed.
With Christianity, though, there's a way to make up for any number of any type of flaws and it's free (for us, at least). Christianity is not the religion that makes it hardest to get to heaven, but the easiest.
4. When I hear people argue the Bible against Christianity, someone invariably brings up the stringent laws of the Old Testament, saying things like, "According to the Bible, if wear clothes of two different materials, we should be stoned, so Christianity is false." That law is under Judaism, not Christianity. The point of Christianity was that we can't adhere to the law and need someone to accept the punishment for our failure. The law has now been fulfilled by Jesus, so all we need to do is accept Him. After all, He's the only one who accepts cracked eggs like us.
For the first one, I have lots of thoughts. One is that it's more our free will that determines where we go rather than some arbitrary judgment on God's part. What I mean is, say I was a billionaire and offered you a million dollars to come to where I live. You refuse and go to Detroit. I'm not in Detroit, so you don't get the million dollars. Whose fault is it?
"But God knows what I'm going to choose, right? And He's all-powerful, isn't He? So why can't He just make the situations in my life go so that I choose Him and not hell?"
Because that would essentially take away your free will. God's purpose for you is to glorify Him. Before you say that's awfully self-aggrandizing of Him, two things: 1. No amount of praise we can give Him can ever be enough. I don't mean that as a way to praise Him, I mean that as in nothing we can do can make Him greater or more powerful (or, conversely, less so). He doesn't need us; we need Him. 2. You can't do that if you have no free will. If you're forced to serve and obey, there can be no love. It is the love of God and love for God that you need, not to be enslaved.
"Why is there hell in the first place? Why can't we all just disappear if we're not going to heaven?"
God created us to be immortal. Could He have made it so that we just disappear when we die if we don't go to heaven? Yes, but then, we'd have no real motivation to choose Him. As for hell itself, I think (and I cannot find any Bible verse either for or against this particular idea) that the true torture of hell is not the flames or pitchforks or whatever else is there, but the total separation from God, from all hope and love, and yet being poignantly aware of the lack of it. Essentially, the analogy of you going to Detroit is appropriate here, too, because you could have gone anywhere in the world and, if that place is not where I live, you choose to get nothing because I am not there. All of those places are equally void of me and so are essentially the same. Likewise, choosing Buddhism, atheism, Islam, or even scientology is pretty much all the same choice.
"But I'm a good person. I give to the poor, haven't killed or raped anyone, and try to generally be nice to people. I get to go to heaven, right?"
I have perhaps even more thoughts on this particular question than on the first one:
1. Many non-believers think God is cruel for sending non-believers to hell if they don't believe. Even aside from the free will argument above, keep in mind that we are His creation, which really gives Him the right to do whatever He sees fit. If you made a pie, but then that pie fell on the floor, you could spend some time scraping off the part that had contact with the floor and carefully making sure the rest was hair- and dirt-free and uncontaminated or you could throw the pie away. Either decision is entirely your right and the pie, if it could talk, would have no right to argue or demand one type of treatment over the other.
2. Most of the negative feedback I hear on this topic is against the Christian God, even though all religions (that I'm aware of) have either hell or an infinite series of lives on earth (some as animals or as people with deformities, severe poverty, or other handicaps) and all but Christianity are based on works. Being good enough gets you to heaven or nirvana or wherever. You just never know until you die whether you've been good enough. Christianity is the only religion that accepts you as you are, and once you get that, it changes you. There are no requirements of service or prayer a certain number of days or giving to the poor. Service, prayer, and charity are encouraged, even commanded, but are nowhere used as the basis for salvation. In other words, while Christianity may be the most adamant religion in that you have to be pure and holy to get to heaven, it is also the one in which heaven is most easily attainable and the one in which we can be assured of heaven while still alive. All we have to do is accept who Jesus is and what He did for us and we're in.
3. Some people complain that with other religions, you can mess up and still get in, whereas with Christianity, one mistake and you're done for. It's true; if you reject Jesus, the only way into heaven is absolute perfection, which we've all fallen short of. Think about it in terms of the law: if you rob a gas station at gunpoint, the judge won't care that you give money to charity, attend church every Sunday, and coach the local Little League baseball team. You go to jail, even if that's your first offense.
If you have an egg and you notice a crack in it, you probably throw the egg away. Why? Because it's contaminated. One crack may as well be 1,000. Same with most food that we drop on the floor. Whether it's down there for four seconds or four months is all the same and we throw it away. We're used to several examples of perfection being demanded or else the item in question is tossed.
With Christianity, though, there's a way to make up for any number of any type of flaws and it's free (for us, at least). Christianity is not the religion that makes it hardest to get to heaven, but the easiest.
4. When I hear people argue the Bible against Christianity, someone invariably brings up the stringent laws of the Old Testament, saying things like, "According to the Bible, if wear clothes of two different materials, we should be stoned, so Christianity is false." That law is under Judaism, not Christianity. The point of Christianity was that we can't adhere to the law and need someone to accept the punishment for our failure. The law has now been fulfilled by Jesus, so all we need to do is accept Him. After all, He's the only one who accepts cracked eggs like us.
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Can't Think of a Good Title Right Now
But maybe that's appropriate because I can't think of a lot of things. Normally, I'm a pretty decisive person. Lately, I can't seem to decide what I want in a number of things: whether to go back to working a full-time job or keep writing, which woman I want to pursue, whether I want to go through the training necessary to become a Christian counselor, where I am best able to serve in the church, even which of the two cameras I just got to keep.
When I was working in the corporate world, I wasn't very decisive, but then, I didn't need to be. I was given orders and I carried them out like a good soldier. I worked my butt off, too, because I had people I was trying to impress or something I was trying to earn. There was not only a goal, but a negative consequence for failure, and that consequence was more severe than just having to work another weekend or late night. It was the disapproval of those who had given me the task.
I've realized recently that nearly all I do has been with some goal in mind of pleasing others. I've been doing P90X in part for health reasons, since heart problems seem to run in the family, but more so I can look good at the beach this summer. Why? Because at least one of the women I'm interested in prefers guys who are very physically fit. I buy games and movies that others seem to like so they can be happy they invited me over. I even learn some things more with the goal of coming across as intelligent than because I really wanted to learn them. I cook more complex meals more often now for my friends than for just me. And strangely, even though there's some part of me that realizes what many of them want is to be able to understand me and read me, I deny them that by keeping a stone-faced visage when I'm not laughing or miserable.
In short, I don't know anymore what makes me truly happy. I enjoy certain things, but I enjoy them more for the results than for the doing of them. One exception is baseball. Another might be math, though there is certainly an element of doing math that makes me feel intelligent and I still base a sizable portion of my identity on how smart people think of me as, all while concurrently wishing they wouldn't find me intelligent because that seems to alienate me to some of them. Maybe hiking in the woods is a third. But none of those are things I can do for a living. None of those are callings, at least not in my life. What is it that I'm supposed to do here and why? What is it that I enjoy doing, rather than doing it to make others like me?
I feel so false right now. It's not that I've lied about anything I've written here, either in this post or before (though it must be admitted that I am far too human to live up to the ideals hitherto presented); it's that I feel I've been living for others all this time and not for myself. And I don't even know how much I should be living for myself. I mean, I know I should be giving my life over to God to let Him work what He wills in it, but at the same time, I want that to be my decision, not a caving in to someone else's preference.
I heard a quip a while back that a friend reminded me of yesterday, "God, please let me be the kind of person my dog thinks I am." Right now, I'm just praying, "God, please let me be the person who doesn't care what kind of person my dog (or anyone else) thinks I am. Let me be who You want me to be."
When I was working in the corporate world, I wasn't very decisive, but then, I didn't need to be. I was given orders and I carried them out like a good soldier. I worked my butt off, too, because I had people I was trying to impress or something I was trying to earn. There was not only a goal, but a negative consequence for failure, and that consequence was more severe than just having to work another weekend or late night. It was the disapproval of those who had given me the task.
I've realized recently that nearly all I do has been with some goal in mind of pleasing others. I've been doing P90X in part for health reasons, since heart problems seem to run in the family, but more so I can look good at the beach this summer. Why? Because at least one of the women I'm interested in prefers guys who are very physically fit. I buy games and movies that others seem to like so they can be happy they invited me over. I even learn some things more with the goal of coming across as intelligent than because I really wanted to learn them. I cook more complex meals more often now for my friends than for just me. And strangely, even though there's some part of me that realizes what many of them want is to be able to understand me and read me, I deny them that by keeping a stone-faced visage when I'm not laughing or miserable.
In short, I don't know anymore what makes me truly happy. I enjoy certain things, but I enjoy them more for the results than for the doing of them. One exception is baseball. Another might be math, though there is certainly an element of doing math that makes me feel intelligent and I still base a sizable portion of my identity on how smart people think of me as, all while concurrently wishing they wouldn't find me intelligent because that seems to alienate me to some of them. Maybe hiking in the woods is a third. But none of those are things I can do for a living. None of those are callings, at least not in my life. What is it that I'm supposed to do here and why? What is it that I enjoy doing, rather than doing it to make others like me?
I feel so false right now. It's not that I've lied about anything I've written here, either in this post or before (though it must be admitted that I am far too human to live up to the ideals hitherto presented); it's that I feel I've been living for others all this time and not for myself. And I don't even know how much I should be living for myself. I mean, I know I should be giving my life over to God to let Him work what He wills in it, but at the same time, I want that to be my decision, not a caving in to someone else's preference.
I heard a quip a while back that a friend reminded me of yesterday, "God, please let me be the kind of person my dog thinks I am." Right now, I'm just praying, "God, please let me be the person who doesn't care what kind of person my dog (or anyone else) thinks I am. Let me be who You want me to be."
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